A furious kindness (NSFW- swearing) 

So, yesterday I posted a couple of things on social media along the lines of “in the face of maddening cruelty, practice a furious kindness.” 

I’ve been asked if I’m quoting anyone, and I’m certainly not consciously directly quoting anyone. The phrase was inspired by Jenny “The Bloggess” Lawson’s “Furiously Happy”. It’s a life philosophy that, in the face of chronic illness, anxiety and depression, aims to be deliberately, aggressively happy. 

So that’s what I was thinking of yesterday. In the face of not only a fanatic suicide bomber, but the vengeful blind reaction of some, I aim to be deliberately, aggressively kind, and my rage at the killing of children will not make me hate anyone else blindly. 

When disgraced, failed fleet Street editor and failed chat show hosts immediately points  the finger at a whole community, FUCK YOU, that community stepped up first and strongest when Piers first reaction was hate. 

When pound shop fascists demand that we choose between Britain and Islam, FUCK YOU, that’s the choice that the bomber believed he had to make (presumably), and it’s BULLSHIT. Millions choose both every day. It works. 

When an old friend reacts with “kindness doesn’t stop psychopaths”… For fucks sake, who said it would? But I’m sure as shit that cruelty, and blind anger won’t either. I’d nitpick that this wasn’t the act of a psychopath, anyway, but a fanatic. A person driven by rage and anger against a whole group that he has been told hates him. And this bullshit rage and anger leads him to kill kids, parents and himself. 

So, yes, future atrocities, if they can be prevented, will be prevented by a cool intelligence, but that intelligence cannot operate with a furious hatred, or it will be misled. 

But there is undeniably fury, and anger, and that’s natural, that’s the right, healthy response to a deliberate, indiscriminate murder of families. 

And when that anger and fury leads to people, in the face of an act planned to cow and divide one of the most integrated cities in Britain, to turn around and say FUCK YOU, you don’t get to win today. We will work together, we will reunite families, we will give blood, we will shout down fascists and fanatics of all tribes, we will defiantly become better people to beat the bastards, FUUUUUUUUCK YOOOOOOOUUUUUUU! 

Care as an act of defiance in the face of cruelty. 

Love practiced as revenge against hatred. 

And that’s a furious kindness

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